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speak to me about life in your 20s
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Reynard Ridge	Feb 4 2013, 12:01 PM Post #16
Drivin' The Short Bus Posts: 2,934 Group: Members Member #237 Joined: January 8, 2007	Kassandra Feb 4 2013, 11:32 AM I have to disagree about the 30s. I think your 40s are the best years. Most people I know just deal with a different sort of crazy in their 30s, and you don't have the excuses of just being in your 20s!! OI doesn't know about the 40s yet! She hasn't gotten there. I would agree totally, though, that my life has gotten better and more interesting as I have gotten older. But, I am fortunate in having a good spouse and children that I really like. I'm looking at 50 in a year and a half, and I actually think my 50s are going to be pretty awesome, too. Better than the 40s, which were better than the 30s, which were leaps and bounds ahead of the stinky 20s. Gunnar would say differently, though, so YMMV seems appropriate.



SnackPack	Feb 4 2013, 01:50 PM Post #17
You're BANNED! Posts: 4,570 Group: Members Member #238 Joined: January 8, 2007	JumpTheMoon Feb 4 2013, 08:46 AM but even still I find myself thinking "is this it? this is how my life will be for the next 35 years". At 41, I still think this on a fairly regular basis. My life is NOTHING like I thought it would be...and yet, there isn't much I would change....other than being independently wealthy. My 20s kind of sucked. There was a lot of good, but man, the lack of certainty, of making crap money, of not knowing if the bills would get paid, etc. I wouldn't go back for anything...although if they could figure out how to give me the skin I had in my 20s, I'd be ahappy camper. So far, my 30s were the best. I WOULD go back to them. It's when I finally had enough money to get back into riding and finally felt stable. It's also when I didn't feel "old", which I don't really feel now, but I do have to keep reminding myself that, while not old, I am older.



Fish Cheeks	Feb 4 2013, 01:56 PM Post #18
You're BANNED! Posts: 5,758 Group: Members Member #211 Joined: January 7, 2007	So far my 40s are good! I can't say they are better than my 30s yet, but my 30s were definitely better than my 20s! I'm wiser, I'm more brave in trying new things, I've accepted myself more. Yes, my butt is jigglier, I can't eat the crap that I used to, I have more wrinkles, but I'm pretty happy.



bellaluna	Feb 4 2013, 02:16 PM Post #19
Magical Leopluridon Posts: 914 Group: Members Member #1,896 Joined: October 16, 2007	Interesting responses. I am coming from a very different place as most folks here. I did have a fun, exciting time in my 20's and I don't regret it a bit. I quit riding in my late teens, moved to the city for college and got my undergrad in audio engineering. While I was an undergrad I started working at a rock club and a recording studio doing sound. I spent the years from 21-28 working at rock club and touring the US and overseas with bands. I got paid to travel, see live music, meet all sorts of people, do fun crazy things, etc. When I was 28 I went to grad school and have been working a day job ever since I graduated. My DH and I started dating when I was 22 and he was 25 but neither of us thought of marriage for a long time and we didn't marry until we were both in our early/mid thirties. There were times I would never have thought we would have gotten married. On the one hand I wish I was more financially secure now but really I wouldn't give back all the experiences I had in my 20's for it. My ONLY regret is that I spent a fair amount of time worrying about what I would do after being a sound engineer, how I would support a horse etc. While the worries were valid they dampened that time, I have learned from that and I try not to let those kinds of worries eat me up. So yeah, in my 20's I was broke, wayward and everything really did work ok One basic fact of life is that you can't see what is coming, and often your life turns out in ways you never ever would have imagined. While this is stress inducing it is a GOOD thing cause man life would be a boring hell of a slog othewise!



leastrock	Feb 4 2013, 06:51 PM Post #20
I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision Posts: 100 Group: Members Member #5,409 Joined: December 11, 2011	bellaluna: I think we can all understand why you enjoyed your 20s with no regret; you were touring the world with a rock band! Thanks for all of the replies. I certainly hope to never feel like my best days are behind me; I want to always believe they're ahead of me. Some days this seems more realistic than others! It's interesting that, without knowing many of your ages prior to this thread, I thought many of you were far older than I am given the lives you lead. I think I still feel very "young" (and not necessarily in a good way) and having a spouse, house, and possibly kids seems like MANY years away. We are all at our own place in life. It's also intriguing to see the various opinions on these things given the varied range of ages represented here. It's amazing.



OpticalIllusion	Feb 5 2013, 04:36 AM Post #21
You're BANNED! Posts: 4,477 Group: Members Member #702 Joined: February 1, 2007	Thats what makes this forum so great. Such a wide variety of people with so many different life experiences.



Reynard Ridge	Feb 5 2013, 06:29 AM Post #22
Drivin' The Short Bus Posts: 2,934 Group: Members Member #237 Joined: January 8, 2007	leastrock Feb 4 2013, 06:51 PM It's interesting that, without knowing many of your ages prior to this thread, I thought many of you were far older than I am given the lives you lead. I think I still feel very "young" (and not necessarily in a good way) and having a spouse, house, and possibly kids seems like MANY years away. We are all at our own place in life. I got married at 37 - so, in my mid-20s, it all was many years away.



Kassandra	Feb 5 2013, 07:10 AM Post #23
Is the meadow on fire? Posts: 1,940 Group: Members Member #4,960 Joined: April 13, 2010	Reynard Ridge Feb 5 2013, 06:29 AM leastrock Feb 4 2013, 06:51 PM It's interesting that, without knowing many of your ages prior to this thread, I thought many of you were far older than I am given the lives you lead. I think I still feel very "young" (and not necessarily in a good way) and having a spouse, house, and possibly kids seems like MANY years away. We are all at our own place in life. I got married at 37 - so, in my mid-20s, it all was many years away. I was married at 35, and at 42 there still isn't a kid in sight. In my 20s I was actively running away from all of it. I still cannot believe I got married at all, it was never something I thought I would do. We actually got married because it was easier than doing all the legal stuff with a bunch of contracts and lawyers. Pretty romantic...



gunnar	Feb 5 2013, 07:53 AM Post #24
You're BANNED! Posts: 6,490 Group: Members Member #236 Joined: January 8, 2007	Reynard Ridge Feb 4 2013, 12:01 PM Kassandra Feb 4 2013, 11:32 AM I have to disagree about the 30s. I think your 40s are the best years. Most people I know just deal with a different sort of crazy in their 30s, and you don't have the excuses of just being in your 20s!! OI doesn't know about the 40s yet! She hasn't gotten there. I would agree totally, though, that my life has gotten better and more interesting as I have gotten older. But, I am fortunate in having a good spouse and children that I really like. I'm looking at 50 in a year and a half, and I actually think my 50s are going to be pretty awesome, too. Better than the 40s, which were better than the 30s, which were leaps and bounds ahead of the stinky 20s. Gunnar would say differently, though, so YMMV seems appropriate. I never thought I would be where I am now! Just not quite sure how or why either. Shit hit the fan at my house last night. Unbelievable behavior from my housemates. Lucky me they left and never came back. Hope they are miserable wherever they are. Of course they are late 20s early 30s. But they act like teenagers!



Fish Cheeks	Feb 5 2013, 09:21 AM Post #25
You're BANNED! Posts: 5,758 Group: Members Member #211 Joined: January 7, 2007	Kassandra Feb 5 2013, 07:10 AM We actually got married because it was easier than doing all the legal stuff with a bunch of contracts and lawyers. Pretty romantic... Funny! Mr. Fishy and I joke about the same thing - the reason we got married was because our lawyer told us to (we were buying a house together and she said everything would be easier if we were married! ). Good thing we really love each other!



Twiceshy	Feb 5 2013, 09:49 AM Post #26
Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back. Posts: 1,149 Group: Members Member #730 Joined: February 5, 2007	I've read and re-read this thread trying to decide if I have anything meaningful to contribute that would really be an "ah ha" moment for you Leastrock. I don't. Much like you've read here we all have different factors influencing us. I was married at 23, first child at 25 and held a series of monotonous, thankless, low-paying jobs (in retrospect) but they taught me so much that have developed me into the person that I am now and have allowed me to gain work-related experiences and the ability to develop personal communication & interaction skills that can't be taught in a traditional manner. These jobs truly were ... diverse... but awful nonetheless: I worked for several retail clothing chains (all out of business now), secretarial positions for construction companies, bill collection, life insurance sales, receptionist at a Canadian consulate... the list goes on. We worried constantly about money, drove crappy cars, and never went out for movies, dinner with friends, etc. I was seriously disillusioned about how my life had worked out at 25, but I never doubted for a moment that it wouldn't always be this way. I am still married to my DH (celebrated 25 years last year), still have 2 adult "children" that I think are pretty amazing, and still worry about money, drive an older car, and haven't been in a movie theatre in a few years. Not much else in my life is the same as it was at age 25, and that's the way it should be. Personally? I think the age you're at right now is the best you've had so far. If you had asked me at 25 what I thought I'd be doing at 50, it would most definitely not have included the things that are part of my life now (horses, running, travel, amazing job, etc.). But opportunities came along that I was able to take advantage of and took me places that I had previously been unable to imagine.



OpticalIllusion	Feb 5 2013, 10:00 AM Post #27
You're BANNED! Posts: 4,477 Group: Members Member #702 Joined: February 1, 2007	Fish Cheeks Feb 5 2013, 09:21 AM Kassandra Feb 5 2013, 07:10 AM We actually got married because it was easier than doing all the legal stuff with a bunch of contracts and lawyers. Pretty romantic... Funny! Mr. Fishy and I joke about the same thing - the reason we got married was because our lawyer told us to (we were buying a house together and she said everything would be easier if we were married! ). Good thing we really love each other! Yeah, thats were Im at lol. We are working towards buying a house and will have to stop at the courthouse and sign some pesky paperwork prior



gunnar	Feb 5 2013, 06:21 PM Post #28
You're BANNED! Posts: 6,490 Group: Members Member #236 Joined: January 8, 2007	I am in living hell. Does anyone care? My life has gone so far south! My roomies are cruel and ignorant! I have no clue how to survive!



SnackPack	Feb 5 2013, 06:57 PM Post #29
You're BANNED! Posts: 4,570 Group: Members Member #238 Joined: January 8, 2007	gunnar Feb 5 2013, 06:21 PM I am in living hell. Does anyone care? My life has gone so far south! My roomies are cruel and ignorant! I have no clue how to survive! of course we care. But, YOU are the only one that can change the situation. We can all give you sympathy, but that doesn't go very far. I hate to sound callous, but is there anyway to change the situation? It sounds miserable and unhealthy. Roomies? Aren't they more like squatters? The house is yours and your brothers, right?...not your nephew's or whomever else is there, etc. Kick their asses out. Or at the very least set boundaries. Be alpha herd member. right now they are unruly horses that are walking all over you and your actions aren't doing anything to change the behave. Get some good old fashioned natural horsemanship going on them. Set boundaries, have consequences and stick to it. Heck, if they are as horrible as it sounds, I'd be calling the police on them for trespassing. You can do it. I agree that you shouldn't have to live like you do...so make some changes. Kick 'em out. Rent-a-room elsewhere (Bay Area). Only you can let yourself be stuck there. Edited by SnackPack, Feb 5 2013, 08:03 PM.



gunnar	Feb 5 2013, 10:06 PM Post #30
You're BANNED! Posts: 6,490 Group: Members Member #236 Joined: January 8, 2007	I cannot afford rent elsewhere I scream I yell it makes no difference. Serious conversation this morning make no difference. If they leave I will be here all alone. Bro is still not here. I can no longer post on FB as they take huge offense. Exactly why I am posting here. I appreciate any and all support!



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