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And right out of left field it comes
Topic Started: Oct 31 2012, 01:32 PM (1,056 Views)
Little Diva
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K, you are not the only one btw. I have been having all of the same thoughts that you have mentioned -- and I am keeping my feet firmly planted on the ground because I cannot afford to get swept away on this -- even though it does feel wonderful to have someone who wants to talk to me and be with me, I recognize I am not ready for a relationship and frankly, neither is he. And I have other fairly significant priorities, like finding a job! We are both coming off of long term relationships and we have stated we do not want another one right now, but to have someone to do stuff with is just fine. And I do love the fact he is two hours away.

And this is why I told you guys -- to help keep me in check. You guys have been one of the rocks that I keep clinging to in this whacky year.

Okay, so the baby. He was born on Feb 02, 35 years ago via emergency c-section. I almost died and do did he as I had been labouring for a long time -- almost 48 hours -- when both of our heart rates started to fall dramatically. I never saw him, never heard him cry. All I know is that he was a healthy baby boy. And I knew that before he was born. I was awake for his birth, and when they took him out of the operating room, I told the surgeon to tell the parents that their Christmas present was a bit late.

I do not know where he is -- neither J (the dad) or I do -- but we have both kept the adoption records open so that if he wants to find us he can. I have not gone looking for him because I do not want to intrude on his life. I imagine him married, with a little girl and a little boy and he is very happy. And he has red hair and blue eyes -- both J and I are red heads with blue eyes.

I am not ashamed of being a pregnant teenager, in fact, it was one of the best times of my life. And I got to give someone something so special and so wonderful and that makes me very very happy. My daughter knows about her half brother, but my son does not. She has never asked any questions about him. Funny, he is just a few years older than my daughter.
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My SO was born on February 2. :o


A few years older, though! :innocent:
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enjoy what's happening now. don't even think about discussing with your parents at this time.

life is giving you a break, enjoy it.
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Only a 50+ person could understand your situation TT! Not a lot of choices at our age! I have been essentially single for a year now. I have not come close to a date or a man! Hard to meet folks where I live! A known entity would be nice!

Enjoy yourself I say!
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WOW! I got teary reading that story, sounds like something from a movie! I agree, proceed with caution, but follow your heart. Good that he's 2 hours away. Don't worry about your parents, you're a big girl and can handle your own decisions! :teehee: I, too know what it's like to meet up with an ex and have sparks fly again, though in my case it's never gonna happen for us again but it's incredible how sometimes there's just always something there. Keep us posted, LD and heck if it's making you smile, DO IT! :)


PS- Love that you're "back on the horse". :teehee:
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Sit back and enjoy the ride....PUN INTENDED ;)

You so deserve to be happy....and to enjoy yourself.....

HAVE FUN....

HH :clap:
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It was a fun, relaxing, conversation and laughter filled weekend. And yes, there were other activities too (giggle)
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:teehee:

Good for you, LD. You deserve light-hearted and fun activities right now! :yes:
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Happy for you LD... enjoy the light-heartedness and fun.... ;)
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I'm glad you had a fun weekend! I'm a firm believer that people come into your life when they're supposed to, even if it's not for the reason you thought they would. Enjoy it!
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WhySoSerious
Nov 5 2012, 07:34 AM
I'm glad you had a fun weekend! I'm a firm believer that people come into your life when they're supposed to, even if it's not for the reason you thought they would. Enjoy it!
Exactly, WSS! Enjoy your time LD. Life takes funny turns, live in the present and don't look back :)
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...so....

After a wonderful weekend spent together, I have not heard from him since he got home last Sunday night. Now, before anyone says anything, we were very clear with each other that we were casual friends only. However, he was a texting and skyping fool right up until last Friday night.

I have subsequently found out that he is in the process of reconciling with his ex girlfriend. And the more I think about it, and the more perspective I have gotten, I deserve much better than he. I am officially taking myself off of the dating market for the next while -- at least 90 days -- while I continue to do more healing from the former mr. diva, and focus on what I really need -- A JOB. I have another interview tomorrow.
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Oh LD. You are correct, you deserve better than he. Taking a little time to breathe and collect your thoughts, work through some feelings, might be a good idea. The right man IS out there and WILL come along when the time is right, though I know it is hard to wait. ;)

Congrats on the interview, and I will be jingling for you tomorrow.
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Hi LD...sorry to hear history man has changed his behavior. But, you knew what you were getting into, and I'll bet you had a fun time together.

Take it for what it was, a nice distraction that you both needed, and now you can get back to the task at hand.

You never know what's around the corner, and you have some healing to do. However, I'll bet your reconnection w/ history man helped you remember that you are an attractive woman, and that helps keep your confidence up up up...

Good luck w/ your interview!! :hug: :hug:
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Corey94 is right.

Just remember what a fun weekend you had and be busy if he calls again.

Good luck on the job interview
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