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| nevermind mods feel free to delete; when life's going bad, a disagreement with the new bf kinda sucks, but he didnt yell and we didnt beat each other up. | |
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| naters | Sep 3 2011, 07:06 PM Post #31 |
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Whoa..... My post must read different to some of you than it does to me. Not the same guy btw. When we talked about what happened at our next opportunity, we had a very rational discussion about it. Talked about tone, horses, time/money investment , horse = family, etc). I'm happy with the results. We aren't in the process of running to a church or anything, we are just dating so there's plenty of time to see how it goes from here. GHH & Corey - used some of your very insightful words in the discussion. I like your balanced views. Thank you! |
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| LostFarmer | Sep 4 2011, 06:55 AM Post #32 |
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Magical Leopluridon
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From a guys perspective. We are literal creatures. We don't do hints. You tell us you want to start saving we believe you want to start saving. Tell us you are frustrated by your pony we think get rid of the frustration. I have had to learn that there are times Mrs. Lost wants my opinion. Times she wants me to nod and say okay, and times to just sit there and pretend to listen. (I say pretend because thou shall not comment nor remember the conversation.) The trick is knowing which mode she is in. She men don't take hints very well. Good Luck Naters. |
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| naters | Sep 4 2011, 07:58 AM Post #33 |
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Thanks LF! That was exactly the issue actually. You hit the nail on the head. |
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| naters | Sep 4 2011, 08:04 AM Post #34 |
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I think maybe folks maybe misunderstood the title, which was perfectly clear to me but someone pointed out that they took it differently: "When things go from bad" = my trailer/barn/stuff burned to the ground. Insurance being a PITA... to... "Worse" = just to add something else to the fire, disagreement emerges with the bf. |
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| SnackPack | Sep 4 2011, 04:59 PM Post #35 |
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You're BANNED!
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Only you know how things really happened. We can only take what you write here, run it through our "filters" and give you advice from our experiences. As you're dating and not married, a lot of us are probably mistaking one guy (porn guy) for a new one. I do think this is a hot topic for horsewoman. Too often, an SO resents the time and money that go along with horse ownership and doesn't understand the draw. Sometimes that's a sign to run away as fast as you can. Sometimes it just needs to be worked through. But I would hesitate if it's a common discussion. That's the guy that's never going to get it and doesn't care too. If that's not your guy...great. Edited by SnackPack, Sep 5 2011, 05:59 PM.
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| naters | Sep 4 2011, 08:19 PM Post #36 |
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Well we all know what happens when people assume. I don't know yet if he's "that guy" or not. I'm not going to assume he is, and I'm not going to assume he's not. It doesn't really matter. I was just venting but was just a little suprised to get jumped on by people who obviously made their own assumptions. |
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| naters | Sep 4 2011, 08:22 PM Post #37 |
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You are right... You don't know me. Personally or otherwise. |
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| Reynard Ridge | Sep 4 2011, 10:15 PM Post #38 |
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Drivin' The Short Bus
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Not jumped on, Naters. People here are concerned. I really love what SnackPack wrote. She's expressing our [the generic "our"] concern for your relationship. From your OP, the dude sounds like he's someone to steer away from; I'm not making assumptions, I read the OP and formed an opinion. Honestly, your clarifications don't make me feel any better about this guy. It all sounds a little dodgy, and I remain concerned. The fact that I don't know you in person doesn't lessen or change that concern. Best of luck as you move forward. |
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| FlashGordon | Sep 5 2011, 05:20 AM Post #39 |
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You're BANNED!
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Ditto this. I don't think anyone was jumping on you, or making assumptions. Just offering advice based on how the OP read. And probably remembering your issues with the last dude, and thinking this was the same guy. Whatever you do, be kind to yourself, ok? |
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| RHowell | Sep 5 2011, 06:36 AM Post #40 |
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You're BANNED!
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Sorry to stick my nose in here, but when you start a thread titled "when things go from bad to worse" on a HORSE bulletin board and bring up the boyfriend wanting you to get rid of the HORSE and the assumption for everything is that if, with all the other things going on in your life and this is the "worse" of it, it must have been pretty bad and therefor we're we're not going to buy into the pat tie up of the problem with a conversation that explains it all away with a "oh that's not what he meant", then you kind of deserve people jumping on you a bit and trying to shake some sense into you, because 1, we care about you and 2, we care about horses and are co-dependents for everyone's horse habit
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| naters | Sep 5 2011, 03:45 PM Post #41 |
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Getting to the barn in time to watch the rest of your stuff burn is pretty effing bad. Having a terrible time with the insurance company, and having an emotional conversation about someone suggesting selling your horse, did, in fact, make my day worse. We agree to disagree on that I guess. I didn't put a whole lot of thought into the title. My bad. I am sorry you guys have had some pretty shitty experiences with men vs. your horses. At first I thought this was going to end up as one of those, but its ended up actually pretty great. Sorry if that's less fun, but that's that. |
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| naters | Sep 5 2011, 03:45 PM Post #42 |
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Getting to the barn in time to watch the rest of your stuff burn is pretty effing bad. Having a terrible time with the insurance company, and having an emotional conversation about someone suggesting selling your horse, did, in fact, make my day worse. We agree to disagree on that I guess. I didn't put a whole lot of thought into the title. My bad. I am sorry you guys have had some pretty shitty experiences with men vs. your horses. At first I thought this was going to end up as one of those, but its ended up actually pretty great. Sorry if that's less fun, but that's that. |
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| naters | Sep 5 2011, 03:46 PM Post #43 |
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Getting to the barn in time to watch the rest of your stuff burn is pretty effing bad. Having a terrible time with the insurance company, and having an emotional conversation about someone suggesting selling your horse, did, in fact, make my day worse. We agree to disagree on that I guess. I didn't put a whole lot of thought into the title. My bad. I am sorry you guys have had some pretty shitty experiences with men vs. your horses. At first I thought this was going to end up as one of those, but its ended up actually pretty great. Sorry if that's less fun, but that's that. |
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