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Cheating on a partner; I don't understand
Topic Started: May 7 2010, 07:00 AM (868 Views)
MissBri
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Oh LD :hug: :hug: :hug: I don't think they were directing those opinions to you!

I think sometimes we all do things that we are ashamed of - but it's how we deal with it afterward that counts. If you take responsibility for your actions, that's the honorable way, but if you try to lay the blame on someone else....well, that is just crappy.

hugs all around..... :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:


I've been cheated on and told it was my fault - it took a piece of me away - but I survived, and built my self esteem back.

Life is hard, but so rewarding and wonderful if you have the right outlook :nyah: :nyah: :nyah: :nyah:
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Won for Me
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Little Diva :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

You obvisouly learned from it and moved on...Different place, different time...no one should judge until they walk a mile in your shoes.

We all share here...the good, the bad and ugly. That is what keeps us coming back to this board...very nonjudgemental!
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IT works both ways! Women cheat and men cheat, Some never cheat and stay in an unhappy relationship. Sometimes I think Women live in a fantasy world, and think there is the perfect man out there, Men and women are so very different.
Edited by Sannois, May 8 2010, 05:52 AM.
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Onelanerode
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LD, I'm sorry ... I wasn't trying to attack you at all. :(

I've known people who, on the outside, lived charmed lives ... but they were so unhappy. No amount of stuff would fill the hole inside them that was making them so sad.

I am glad you are in a better place now.

And some days, I hear you on the "happiest single in an apartment" bit ... marriage can be really hard sometimes.

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Over 30 years ago I walked in on my (ex) while he was in my bed with my best friend. :censored: THAT was an eye opener.... He was a drunk druggie self centered abusive sex addict who deserved all he got in his life :mallet: . My (ex) best friend also got hers..none of it by my hand. I took the high ground but it was many years before I could trust another man. My DH and I lived together for 25 years before I agreed to marry him-but he is SUCH a keeper :cloud9: and was very understanding about my trust issues.
We are in our 31st year together. If I had only met him first... :sigh:
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macmtn
May 8 2010, 09:08 AM
Over 30 years ago I walked in on my (ex) while he was in my bed with my best friend. :censored: THAT was an eye opener.... He was a drunk druggie self centered abusive sex addict who deserved all he got in his life :mallet: . My (ex) best friend also got hers..none of it by my hand. I took the high ground but it was many years before I could trust another man. My DH and I lived together for 25 years before I agreed to marry him-but he is SUCH a keeper :cloud9: and was very understanding about my trust issues.
We are in our 31st year together. If I had only met him first... :sigh:
I'm not sure why, but I find that you waited 25 years to be the funniest thing ever. I love it!!! :cloud9:
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Witchy -- we went to Hawaii on our honeymoon. At a ranch barbeque on the big island they gave a round of drinks for the longest married couple there ..and the newest married couple. We won Both.. :teehee:
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LD I certainly wasn't commenting on your situation, but on what Fishy had posted. :hug:

Every relationship is different. You know we love you to bits!! :hug: :martini: :hug: :martini: :hug: :martini:

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jillintexas
May 8 2010, 03:28 PM
LD I certainly wasn't commenting on your situation, but on what Fishy had posted. :hug:


Same LD! I hope I didn't offend.

Everyone's perspective is an important and valuable one, as everyone has been through different trials...

Hugs!! :hug:

And thanks Fishy.... yes it was incredibly difficult to deal with, as an adult.... I sometimes think it would have been easier if we were younger and oblivious! But hey such is life and at the end of the day the situation taught me a lot, and strengthened my own marriage in a lot of ways....
Edited by FlashGordon, May 8 2010, 04:06 PM.
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