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| Anyone on tonight...?; Update 5/6-- Emotional Roller Coaster | |
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| Little Diva | May 6 2010, 07:19 PM Post #61 |
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WfM -- how long it takes is how long it takes. Sometimes, we can get over these things fast and sometimes we never get over them. Just try each day not to think about him and not to wonder what he is doing -- no matter how bad the relationship was. As each day passes and you make your OWN space in the world, it feels a little better and you get a little stronger each day. You will have days that are good, and days that are bad and you feel like you are slipping, and that is okay. I know how hard it is and I know what it feels like. Keep strong sweetie and we are all here for you to talk to anytime that you need a shoulder, or ears or arms for hugging -- even cyber arms! |
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| DairyQueen2049 | May 6 2010, 08:02 PM Post #62 |
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DRAGON BREATH. DRAGGIN' BUTT
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I read somewhere once your emotions are like an elephant and your logic is like the rider. Once the emotions (elephant) gets going your logic (rider) can't get control of them - but if you can get your logic (rider) THINKING instead of FEELING (handing over the reins to the elephant) you CAN control the emotion elephant. It helps me to think this way to control MY elephant. |
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| Witchy | May 7 2010, 05:55 AM Post #63 |
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How are you today? Are you feeling better? |
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| Corey94 | May 7 2010, 06:28 AM Post #64 |
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Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back.
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WFM, I read a book after a huge breakup (I got dumped, 6.5 year relationship, he met someone else on a white water rafting trip out of the blue, was the best thing to ever happen to me, btw) called "you can be happy no matter what" and what I got from it was that you can control your thoughts. When you start to wallow, force yourself to think of other things. It becomes a skill, really, and super helpful. Especially now when you are at a weak spot when the good times are coming to the forefront, and the bad times are getting rationalized a bit. I think getting to the closing on your new place will be a huge turning point, and I think you should practice the thought control. Lots of other things to think of; the last course you rode at Gulfport, what paint you'll use on your new bedroom, what you want to do over the weekend, the issues at work, etc etc. We're still here pulling for you. I want to start a thread to see how naters is doing, she is going thru the same thing, I think.
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| headlesshorseman | May 7 2010, 06:36 AM Post #65 |
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I sure hope you did NOT do a drive by....it would be your luck that he is out by the car or something.... NO NEED to feed his ego.... ![]() I hope you have a good day today... HH |
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| Won for Me | May 7 2010, 06:56 AM Post #66 |
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Is the meadow on fire?
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I am much better today! Thanks everyone! When I have a slip, I try to figure out why and then I try to figure out what would make me feel better. Then, when I think of what would make me feel better, I think of the consequences...For example, if I want to call, I try to play it out in my mind...how am I going to feel if he doesn't answer, if he is rude, if he says he can't talk, whatever...is the outcome worse than the need to call? Usually it is. I am not good at compartmentalizing. I wish that was something I could do...If I could just hurry up the move! I will be so busy once I move that I won't have time to think. Jingle for a strong weekend with lots of good weather so I can ride and keep the stress away. |
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| Black Tack | May 7 2010, 07:12 AM Post #67 |
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Glad to hear you are feeling stronger today Sending lots of jingles for good weather so you can go hang out with your BBB who is way handsomer and sweeter anyway
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| FlashGordon | May 7 2010, 08:58 AM Post #68 |
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WFM I am late to the party, but wanted to offer hugs to you!! You have an adorable new house to move into, an awesome horsey, and I'm sure LOTS of other positive things going on in your life. You don't need negativity! Hoping things get easier as the days go by. Hang in there! |
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