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The crazies in your life; How do you deal?
Topic Started: Apr 28 2010, 09:27 AM (460 Views)
Onelanerode
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Usually I can deal with the crazies in my life fairly well, whether they're just passing through or they're permanent residents. But lately I'm struggling. Maybe it's just a lot of little things at once, but I'm really fighting to keep my cool lately.

How do you all get back to center, or even better, how do you keep the negativity from bothering you that much?

(I'd go hug my horse, but ever since she came into heat a few weeks ago, she's been taking a ride on the crazy train too. :pissed: )
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I deal with crazies every single day of my life. My random way to keep me from saying something totally smart ass to them is to keep a drink near me at all times. Everytime they say something stupid and I want to make a remark, I just drink my drink and nod. Unless of course they seriously need to realize they are an idiot (this morning at the bank lol).

You have to realize you cant fix everyone, and you will go nuts if you try. Pick your battles. Whats actually important.
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LOL, Optical, at first I thought you meant alcoholic drink, and all I could think was wow, how is she not an alcoholic by now?! I sure would be! And then I realized that you were probably talking regular, nonadult beverage. :lonely:
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fortunately my crazies are now at least 6 hours from me, so that helps. I am lucky now that I don't have to listen to their rants for the most part. :clap:
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For work-related crazies, I vent to my office mate and occasionally to my boss. Then once I get that off of my chest, the crazies don't bother me as much. And I don't eat with my colleagues anymore (except one, who I have a monthly anti-social social hour with). They're disgusting and my lunch hour is a lot less stressful when I'm not around them.
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Smile, nod, and back away slowly!
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Onelanerode
Apr 28 2010, 10:37 AM
LOL, Optical, at first I thought you meant alcoholic drink, and all I could think was wow, how is she not an alcoholic by now?! I sure would be! And then I realized that you were probably talking regular, nonadult beverage. :lonely:
My beverages are always in a metal portable coffee cup, you can be the judge of whats in there ;)
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I got lucky and was born with a major filter from brain to mouth and an insane amount of tolerance. I have yet to actually lose it on someone without really intending to say what comes out. I feel like there's an exorbitant amount of drama in my life right now, but I'm trying very hard to be the grown-up no matter what while I sort out what I can do something about and what I can't. Most of the time it's manageable, and the days it isn't I go online and look at jobs in other parts of the country. :teehee:

My roommate gets the worst of it because I come home and vent it all out at her. But frequently her crazy and mine are the same thing, so it balances to a certain extent.
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Knock on wood I don't really have any crazies in my life at the moment. I did have a coworker who sat at her desk behind me and moaned...and filed her nails...she got fired and I wouldn't be surprised if part of it was how weird she was.

Mostly I try to avoid and ignore crazies. If I have to deal with somebody really annoying, Mr. Fishy is the one to get an earful. And I need time to myself to decompress from being around them. I find not engaging them in conversation helps a lot. I have been accused of being aloof many times in my life but that's ok with me as long as I don't have to deal with whackos!!! :cheer: :teehee:
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Apr 28 2010, 10:50 AM
Smile, nod, and back away slowly!
;) Well said.
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I've had my share.....

Hell I may even be one.......


How I cope - I write a letter read it through, edit it a lot, then dump it.

I go for a walk. Many times the woods out back of my house heard some uncharacteristically, very colorful, language from me

when it's particularly bad, I try to envision being in their world and that usually makes me either very silly giggly, or sad.
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;) Miss Bri, I do just like you do! I find that "writing the letter", then reading it and then shredding it really helps get any frustrations out, orders my mind again and let's me take that psychological breath so that I don't say the wrong thing.

Most of the folks in my life now don't affect me negatively very much as I purged a major load of very toxic connections about 15 years ago. What was hard for me to learn was the difference between those who just inadvertently might cause difficulties and those who truly meant destruction or had serious negative intentions (that's due to screwed up childhood issues for me to sort out), and so it was a process to learn to discern which was which and either let stuff go by or protect myself when I should. Still have times I don't do that right.

Anyway, most folks "permanently" in my life are not toxic now. But the odd "irritant" does come through now and then because that's just life, and so when that happens and it's necessary to deal with it I write letters, go for walks, step back and listen to music, play my violin, even pray...they all help to gain perspective so I can handle the situation in a balanced manner.

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Well, I'm kind of a loner (and like it that way) and I HATE drama. I rarely have crazies that I feel I have to deal with. If there is someone crazy in my life that's making it difficult, I tend to let them drift away.

As for co-workers, well, I do a lot of "WTF?" to myself and maybe another sympathetic co-worker. I have a current co-worker whom I really like, but I am going to explode if she keeps telling me about her drama. She likes to tell me first thing in the morning. I'm decidedly NOT a morning person and can only muster enough good will for my clients. I prefer that my co-workers sort of leave me be unless work related until mid-morning. She doesn't get body language (seriously, if I'm looking at my computer and typing WHILE you're talking? Probably not the best time to tell me the latest drama). Thankfully I got lucky and the situation has been fixed with no intervention on my end....we had to move desks and she's clear across the office from me.

For the crazies that I do have to deal with? I just smile and nod and say 'that's nice."
Edited by SnackPack, Apr 29 2010, 09:31 AM.
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