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| Fish Cheeks | Apr 1 2010, 07:19 PM Post #31 |
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JTM, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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| MAR | Apr 1 2010, 07:32 PM Post #32 |
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Thomas H. Cruise!
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This is hard subject for me....there isnt a day that goes by that i don't imagine taking my own life...HOWEVER it is the thought of the folks still here that stops me..and my little dog. I am so sorry for the pain, but please know that nothing you could have done...and I truly hope they are at peace now... |
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| Trialbyfire | Apr 1 2010, 07:49 PM Post #33 |
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MAR....... What can we do to help? Other than just be here for you?
Edited by Trialbyfire, Apr 1 2010, 07:50 PM.
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| Deleted User | Apr 1 2010, 08:27 PM Post #34 |
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I can't begin to help ease your loss but I can give you as much hugs so you never feel alone and tears so you never have to cry. I can understand how a downward spiral gets out of hand. Luckily mine just got me caught and it could have been worse. I'm getting a tattoo of my daughter's name vertically on my forearm so I will always remember if I ever think of ending my life I'll be taking her's too. |
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| Nylar | Apr 1 2010, 09:11 PM Post #35 |
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We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
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I've been there as well, and his death devastated me in ways that I could never have imagined. My heart goes out to you and your friend's loved ones. |
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| Brydelle Farm | Apr 1 2010, 09:24 PM Post #36 |
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Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back.
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| Little Diva | Apr 1 2010, 09:41 PM Post #37 |
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No words, just lots and lots of I am so so sorry my sweet, dear Katie.
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| kimheller | Apr 2 2010, 04:31 AM Post #38 |
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I am so busy I am not sure if I lost a horse or found a lead rope?
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I lost my nephew 3 yrs ago in March to suicide, he was 17 , a TOP wrestler with a FULL scholarship to NCU, and was an up and coming race car driver with loads of potential. He sat on the couch with his parents one night talking until about 11pm, at 2 am my SIL went ot turn off his bedroom light and found him hanging. None of us had ANY idea, none at all, he was happy he was smart and he had the world at his finger tips!Sadly, my other nephew ( his best friend) repeated this tragedy exactly a year later, he had promised never to cause us that kind of hurt and still could not resist. Suicide is a VERY personal decision, you were her friend and you were there for her, this was her choice and I am soooooo sorry for your loss. I think when you lose someone to suicide it might be the hardest type of death to accept, some how you feel like you never did enough, or you missed something. HUGS to you, try to remember that by being her friend you gave her happiness and joy! |
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| JumpTheMoon | Apr 2 2010, 05:44 AM Post #39 |
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Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back.
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Thanks everyone for all of your love, hugs and support. I knew I could count on you guys.I don't think there will ever be a day that goes by that I won't think of her, or wonder how there wasnt something we could have done that would get her happy and keep her here. I am comforted by the fact that we were all aware of her pain, and it was not a split second decision, but something she had thought of time and time again. It was a decision she made all by herself and stuck to, probably one of the first for her, and definitely not an accident or something done on a whim. I wish I had known the cause of her pain to somewhat 'justify' to myself why she needed to do this, but unfortunately I think she took that information to the grave with her. I know her pain is gone now, but there are 100's of others now in pain because of losing her. It makes me so sad that so many here have had to deal with this. The lack of closure is such an aweful feeling. to all of you that have or are dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. And MAR, I must echo, is there anything we can do to help?? |
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| JumpTheMoon | Apr 2 2010, 05:49 AM Post #40 |
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Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back.
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I forgot to mention, I am not sure how many of you believe in this, but the oddest thing happened to me yesterday... I have this bracelet that I got from someone who at one time meant the WORLD to me that I have since lost touch with. I love this bracelet and about 2.5 years ago lost it and have looked everywhere 100 times over trying to find it. I had pretty much given up, thinking I must have left it somewhere. Yesterday after the funeral while packing for my trip, i decided to check a little box in my closet to see if I had any flip flops and saw a few jewllery boxes in there so decided to see if there was anything good I was missing out on. I opened up the 3rd and last box and there was my bracelet. I swear at that moment I heard Claire say "here you go! you found it finally." I am never taking it off now. Do you guys find loved ones who pass present themselves in odd ways? It doesnt bring them back, but keeps them close to you in spirit? |
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| MayaTy02 | Apr 2 2010, 06:01 AM Post #41 |
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oh JTM I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I personally can't understand suicide at all and feel it's such a tremendous waste of life and love. I give you and that you can find some peace and understanding.
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| onthebit | Apr 2 2010, 06:04 AM Post #42 |
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Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back.
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Yes, I absolutely find that this happens and draw a lot of comfort from it. I am so sorry about your friend but at least she is at peace now. There is something even more devestating about someone choosing to end their own life than any other way to lose them. |
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| Delia | Apr 2 2010, 06:28 AM Post #43 |
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Yes, absolutely with my dad. Although more so in the first few years after he passed than I do now (16 years later). But if you asked my mom, I think she'd say that she's aware of my dad and her mother's presence almost every single day. |
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| MyGiantPony | Apr 2 2010, 06:38 AM Post #44 |
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Is the meadow on fire?
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I'm so saddened by this...I don't know if it will help at all, but I've come to look at suicide as the same sort of death as from cancer or a stroke, or heart attack...the mental illness that drives someone there is just as much a disease as heart disease. The loss is still as hard and painful, but I think looking at it that way helps alleviate some of the shock.
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| CDE Driver | Apr 2 2010, 08:20 AM Post #45 |
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It'll be an adventure! We're going on an adventure!
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I am so sorry JTM. One thing that I have learned is that there is nothing you can do to make another person happy. That is something that comes from within and something that people have to find themselves. I think that when there is mental illness involved they see no other alternative to allay their pain. Please don't blame yourself or think there was something you didn't do. Please cling to the good memories you have together. |
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