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TOC, I need a hug...
Topic Started: Apr 1 2010, 01:00 PM (1,358 Views)
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:( I'm so sorry.

Hugs to you. How sad.
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I'm so sorry, JTM. :hug: :hug:
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Wow, JTM, so very very sad. Thinking of you, and very furry hugs from my Corey. Oh, and me too... :hug: :hug:
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I'm very sorry, that so completely sucks.
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So, so sorry JTM, for you and everyone else who loved her. As others have said better than me, depression that profound is an illness that is just too difficult for the rest of us to fathom. At least now she's finally at peace. :candle:
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I am so sorry. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

:candle: :candle: :candle: For your dear friend. RIP.
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I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, JTM. Hugs from Chicago. :hug:
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I am so sorry. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

There really are no great words that will comfort you right now. I wish there were. :hug:

I agree with the others that depression and other mental illnesses are just so vast and mysterious; I hope that someday doctors will be able to help unravel these mysteries.

My cousin committed suicide almost 3 years ago. We were all so shocked; honestly if I had to make a list of the top 10 people I knew who would never take their own life, he would have been on the list. In the end it came out that he had some mental health issues but even his wife, who knew all of the details was shocked. His sisters and parents had never known anything, and were (and are still, in many ways) just devastated. It has taken them a long time to get over their anger, blame, and other difficult feelings - toward him, towards themselves, toward everything.

As much as you are hurting now, remember that there will be times to come that will also be very hard for her friends and family, so be ready for them, and if you can, be ready to support those that might hurt the most.

One of my cousin's sisters found out that Hospice actually offers grief counseling to family/friends of suicide victims and she said calling them was one of the hardest things she ever did....but in the end it was so worthwhile. So if you or anyone you know are really struggling, don't wait to call someone for help.

Take care of yourself, too. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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So sorry :,(
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Kate, I am so very sorry for your loss. It *is* hard to understand that depression and other brain chemistry diseases can be fatal because our culture has for so long been in denial about the issue. I wish I had words to comfort you, and your friend's family and other friends, but words aren't adequate. Know that you and your mother are treasured here at TOC.
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JTM, I am so sorry about your friend. I had a friend take his life three weeks ago and I have been a wreck ever since. I too haven't been able to get my head around it. Even worse, he keeps appearing in my dreams, and it is very traumatic.
He left two boys, 13 & 10, and a lovely wife. For many years we were best friends, but his darkness made it difficult to continue the friendship. I can't stop feeling horribly that I wasn't there to help him thru his struggle.
This is the first person I have ever known well that committed suicide.
When someone takes his own life, it feels like they take a little of our lives with them. :,( :,(

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Apr 1 2010, 01:00 PM
I am a sad panda :(

A week ago yesterday, one of my closest friends took her own life. She was the sweetest, smartest, most beautiful girl with a heart of gold. She had a lifetime of struggles, none of us really ever knew where they stemmed from, if anywhere, and they really came to a head in the last year with a few attempts and hospital stays. She'd been working with a therapist and psychiatris and we really thought she was over the 'hump' lately. She came to my shower on the Sunday, and by Wednesday she was gone. Just like that.

Today was her funeral service and I can honestly say it was one of the hardest things I have EVER done thus far. The place was packed with not a dry eye. I will never understand how she felt so alone when there were SO many people who loved her and she had so much going for her. Or why we couldnt take away her pain without having to lose her for good. Or how she could go downhill SO fast without calling out for help. There are a thousand crappy ways to die that you can't control, and taking your own life is just so very sad and...permanent.

I know she is at peace now, and I know she is finally where she wants to be...but damnit, I'm going to really miss her. :(
OH lord, I am so sorry Kate. What a terrible thing. No one understands the personal torment some go through. I have no words, Only hugs and kind thoughts for you. I think the worst is that their pain is ended but they leave so much behind. God bless! :no: :rose: :jingles: :,(
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I am so, so sorry to be reading this. My mom's cousin (I called him my uncle) commited suicide 2 years ago this past fall. I was close to him and it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with. The feeling is indescribable when someone close to you takes their own life. It's not the same feeling as when someone passes away from an illness. It's worse and it sucks.

I hope you were able to share some laughs with her at your shower and can look back on good memories with her.

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