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I need to vent about horse I bred; apologies in advance
Topic Started: Jun 9 2009, 02:00 PM (296 Views)
NZ Loopy Lou
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Thomas H. Cruise!
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Sometimes it helps just to write it down ...

A few years ago I sold a horse that I bred to a friend/neighbour. I sold him for about 1/4 of his value because I believed it would be a really good home and he would stay very close by so I could see him regularly.

He has been broken in for a couple of years now but she barely ever rides him (I have ridden with her ONCE in 5 years).

Recently she posted on an internet forum that her wintec wide saddle was not fitting him any more. A few people suggested other saddles and saddle fitters. I was surprised as I own his father and owned his mother (RIP Debi) and whilst both are substantial horses (Deb is a clydesdale and Hamish and ArabX) I have never had any real trouble fitting them to saddles and knowing the horse, I have never picked him as being all THAT difficult. I helped her out with a fitter suggestion.

I know he doesn't really care and normally I would not be all THAT bothered as long as the horse was well cared for but the last time I saw him, I was utterly horrified. He's obese and looks awful and I can understand now why the saddle doesn't fit - she won't find anything to fit a horse THAT hugely overweight! To be honest I was really quite angry when he waddled over to me because obesity to me is just as bad as starvation, worse possibly on young joints *sigh*. I tried to buy him back a couple of years ago but she was not interested in selling and insisted she was going to start riding him a lot more - it never happened. I know, he is not mine any more and it is not my business but, well, I'm sad about it :(

So, I tried calling her last week but only got answer machine - I was going to suggest we start riding together regularly. In the end I sent her an email - a nice friendly one. As well as asking if she wanted to join me for a few rides, the email did also point out that I had ridden past Holden and seen that he was looking rather portly and that she would probably find it a lot easier to fit a saddle to him if he lost some weight. Now she's ignoring me and the last time I saw her (I was riding along the road and she was driving her car home), she looked quite dark and didn't stop for a chat like she would normally have. It seems I have offended her :innocent: and I really didn't want to do that. Damn!

Not even sure what the point of this post is, I feel like I have let my horse down and lost a friend and I'm sad. I need to call her but I am kinda scared she is going to yell at me :sigh: and I don't 'do' confrontation. Ah poop!
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MissBri
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But, I don't care - it's 5:00 somewhere
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Here are a few suggestions.....


find a funny card and send it to her with just a quick notation that 'Thought you could use a giggle - you looked like you were having a horrible day when you drove past without stopping for a chat' or however you kiwi's would phrase something along those lines.

Then you could either send it like that or add - I'm coming over tomorrow with something tasty - I need some 'friend-time' and could use some of your wisdom/wit.

then stop over with something tasty.

If you refuse to accept the 'snub' (if that is what it was) - it cannot grow - if you do nothing it may grow to the point where you are no longer friends - and that would be a shame indeed.

So approach as if the 'darkness' was not about you - and have a few chuckles and giggles together.
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