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Topic Started: Mar 19 2009, 10:47 AM (614 Views)
Little Diva
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Thanks guys. You are the best! My daughter is here for the weekend and I have taken a day off of work, which I really should NOT do as I am seriously behind on a ton of stuff. We are heading to a spa today for a half day of pampering.

And the only ads I seem to get at the top and bottom of the page are equestrian singles ads....sheesh!
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MissBri
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But, I don't care - it's 5:00 somewhere
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Aw LD many HUGS!!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Jingles that you find an even better barn with many mature and fun individuals - where are you looking?
I'm sure someone here may have a suggestion or two. Are you looking for a large show type barn, or a smaller one?


I have so been where you are now standing. Definitely spend time with your horse, look up some old friends and catch up over a glass of wine. :martini: Good for you for taking a day to spend with your daughter.

I've always been a very up and optimistic type, but there's been periods in my life where it was tough work to be so. And yes it was just a facade, but after a while that optimism kinda absorbs into you and all of a sudden you realize that laughter and smile are actually coming from the inside out.
So chin up Honey, think of this as starting a whole new chapter in your life. You have a clean palate more or less - choose some bright and soft colors and create a masterpiece! :rose:

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Gack, LD. Sorry to hear about this. Take care of yourself and bigs :hug: to you.
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(((Hugs))) It sounds like you are doing the right thing and taking care of yourself. Good idea about the spa! Sending hugs your way! :hug: :hug:
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:hug: I'm so sorry to hear this, Diva. However, I'm sure your perfect guy is out there waiting somewhere. :hug:
Edited by thetoothpick&oliveshow, Mar 21 2009, 05:20 AM.
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So sorry to hear this news Diva. Feel free to vent on us anytime! :hug:
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Hugs to you, Diva! I know this is a hard time for you, but one of the bravest (and healthiest) things I think a person can do is walk away from a relationship that isn't right. Fighting constantly with (or for) someone corrodes the soul, until you are just fighting by rote and it's meaningless. It takes a strong, centered person to be able to go it alone instead of leaning on the "comfort" of a partnership that isn't providing you with what you need.

Time to build yourself back up, and be happy. :hug: I wish you all the luck!
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LD, I'm sorry to hear of your breakup, but from all you've written in the past, it sounds like it is the right thing. Good for you for standing up and being a strong woman. You deserve wonderful things and once you free yourself and take some time for yourself the door will be open to all new possibilities.

I hope you had a wonderful spa day - nothing like some pampering to nourish the soul!!!! :cheer: :cloud9: :hug:
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Just wanted to add my :hug: :hug: as well and let you know that we are thinking about you.
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Little Diva
Mar 19 2009, 10:47 AM
Hello everyone....

Have not been by in awhile, other than odd comments here or there. Very busy at work, and well, the big news is that the diva family is splitting up. Mr. Diva and I have been having problems for awhile and things have gone steadily downhill. I am putting my house up for sale sometime during the summer, and I have started looking for another property somewhere closer to the barn where Tigger lives. The big problem is that the diva step daughter works where Tigger lives and while I love the barn, her comments about me to the staff and boarders are making it difficult to stay there for my own sanity. I am also looking for a new home for him. I am trying though to ensure that I am out at the barn when she is not there, but that is not always possible.

There are many many reasons why a relationship ends and this one is no different. This ending process is incredibly painful and difficult. I am just so thankful that we never really had our finances tied up together. This will make things somewhat easier.

So that is why I have not been around much. My sense of humour has left me, I am tired -- physically, mentally and spiritually, and feel like I have nothing to offer anyone. I thought that this time would be different; that I had learned from past mistakes, but I guess that I really have not. I thought I had truly found that one person who I could be with for ever, but the issues like his failing to get a divorce, and his children just would not go away. The one thing I have learned though is that if I am foolish enough to get into another relationship, he will NOT have an ex anything or children. And he will ride.
Awww LD I have missed you!! I am sorry you are going through this, But bravo for you for making a change like this!
MAny many hugs to you!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :rose: :hug:
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Diva, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm not around much (can't log on at work because the avatars take too long to download), but when I'm here you are always one of the posters I specifically look for!

I had a bad break up in my 20s and I felt exactly the way you described--no humor, no enjoyment, just exhaustion. I'm happy to say that once my decision was made and I kicked his ass to the curb, my mood brightened significantly (and almost immediately). He was a live-in boyfriend, not a husband, so it was definitely easier to disentangle myself, but here's hoping that you, too, will suddenly find yourself smiling and humming as you groom your horse one fine spring day! :cloud9:

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