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| Sticky Situation with Fellow Boarder?; What would you do?? | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Feb 6 2008, 03:45 PM (646 Views) | |
| Drakefly | Feb 6 2008, 03:45 PM Post #1 |
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I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision
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The barn managers are out of town and left a newer boarder to take care of the horses while they are gone. My horse is being treated for EPM and has special instructions about how to give him his meds (has to be left up in a stall so he gets it on an empty stomach...) Yesterday I went out to the barn and I found my horse still up in a stall. He still had his sheet on (it was over 60 out) and he had no water in the stall. It was 1:30pm at this point so it had been awhile since the morning feed. He also had not been given his medication yet come to find out. In an attempt to keep things peaceful at the barn I let it slide and told the girl and her mom I wasn't mad and I understood etc....I took care of him myself for the rest of the day. I went back out LATER (aruond 9pm) to put his sheet back on as it was going to rain and he has Cushings so I didn't want him to get cold. I found MY horse's sheet on this other person's horse (the same people who left my guy up in the stall with no water etc.) I was a bit irked by this but I just took MY sheet off their horse and put it on mine. I didn't see anything to put on their horse so I just left him without anything as it wasn't really THAT cold out (I was just concerned about my guy as he has Cushings). It was late and I didn't think it was THAT big of a deal so I didn't see the need to call anyone and tell them about the mix-up. I didn't even know WHO had put the wrong sheet on to begin with and it was dark and late....so I left it at that. This morning I get an ANGRY phone call from the mom who owns the horse MY horse's sheet was on. She basically told me not to ever touch her horses again and that she was taking care of MY horse and all that so I shouldn't have taken the sheet off HER horse....(IT WAS MY SHEET!!!) She said she had gotten permission to use the sheet that was on the peg I had stuck MY horse's sheet on (this horse is gone and the sheet on there is no useable anyways - I knew I was going to be out later to put my horse's sheet on later so I didn't think it was a problem to hang his sheet up temporarily on the GONE horse's peg). My horse's name IS written on the tag inside the sheet and not to mention my horse is a pony and 2 sizes too small for her horse too. I'd like to know if she was going to buy me a new sheet had her horse torn mine up! But the fact she had permission to use the sheet on that peg is beside the fact - she should have checked to make sure the sheet was for the horse that was now gone to begin with....but she was REALLY angry at me and basically chewed me out. Im thinking WTF??? It was MY sheet and she screwed up MY horse's care that day too....and now she's mad at ME?!? Anyways - what do you do in a situation like this?? I am a bit concerned now about this boarder taking care of my horse while the BO is out of town? Anyone have any advice here?? Am I out of line? I feel like bc Im a nice person and let things slide to keep things peaceful - this lady has walked all over me now... |
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| justmagic | Feb 6 2008, 03:56 PM Post #2 |
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Is the meadow on fire?
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I simply would have told her that the sheet that she put on her horse was yours. She should have read the name and I would have told her so. I would also call barn managers and inform them of what is happening. I find it a bit bold that they left a NEW boarder in charge and that the NEW boarded is pushing back at you who has been there longer. That wouldn't sit well with me nor would the fact they failed to water your horse or give him the proper medication. Don't allow them to walk all over you, especially when it comes to proper care of your horse. Are you able to take care of your horse yourself until the managers come back? How long are they gone? If they have gone south for the winter this care can't continue. No water? That's an impaction waiting to happen. Present it to them that way as well. As in "You have appointed this person which makes you responsible for their actions. If something happens I'm holding them along with you (manager) responsible." |
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| Drakefly | Feb 6 2008, 04:04 PM Post #3 |
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I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision
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Well I think they went with this newer boarder bc they were one of the only ones able to cover while they were gone. The barn just got new management and I am really happy with the new management....and I was getting along fine with new boarder up until now. When she first called me she asked me if I had switched the sheet off her horse and I told her that yes, I found my horse's sheet on her horse so I moved it onto mine etc...she was like well I had PERMISSION to use the sheets on X's peg....I told her that I was not aware of that and that I had only hung it there bc my horse does not have a peg etc....it was like she thought she had a RIGHT to use it and that I was in the wrong for even touching her horse with MY sheet on it. I told her I was sorry like a million times and that I would call her next time even if it's late....but that wasn't enough bc she kept laying into me...basically chewed me out... I kept saying I was sorry....but it didn't seem to matter to her...she just kept telling me to not ever touch HER horses again...like I had hurt them or something.... My husband heard the WHOLE call and agreed that she was pretty out of line.... I tried to call the BO and I left a message on her phone but I have not heard back from her yet.... I keep feeling like I did something wrong when I know I didn't...it WAS my sheet and she did leave my horse in a stall for hours the previous day...I was forgiving....why can't she be also?!? |
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| Lion1024 | Feb 6 2008, 04:17 PM Post #4 |
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It'll be an adventure! We're going on an adventure!
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Unfortunately, you can't change her or her reaction. Just know you were in the right. Your horse's care comes first, especially when you had to provide for your horse - something SHE was supposed to be doing. It also sounds like they left a fairly young girl in charge (I'm assuming this is the case if the Mom of the girl is the one who called to berate you). I wouldn't be very happy with that. Sure, there are 17 year olds who are competent enough to handle barn work without supervision. A girl that doesn't feed/water your horse does not sound like one of them. Explain it to the BO and let them know how unhappy you are with the whole situation. I'm sure you can do it in a way that is nonthreatening but also gets your point across. You're paying for reliable, experienced, NON CRAZY care for your horse. You're not getting it. |
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| Drakefly | Feb 6 2008, 05:20 PM Post #5 |
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I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision
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Well it's the MOM and the daughter that are doing the morning feeding of the horses. Someone else feeds at night. If we want our horses to have a sheet on...we have to put it on at night... The BO called me back and apparently I am in the WRONG bc I should have called her last night....that I should not have left HER horse without a sheet on (even though it was not her sheet). I tried to explain about what happened yesterday (and that it was late and we had JUST had to put my mother in law's dog down that night) with my horse being left in a stall.... and apparently 11am is when they told the BO that they started feeding him...who knows when they really started feeding...(he has to be left up for 2 hours before getting the meds)....and that when I got there at 1:30pm that it was on his normal schedule. I told the BO that I had been upset that it was warm out and he still had a sheet on and that he had NO water...BO said that I should have said something even though I didn't want to cause any problems. I have a feeling that the BO and these people are closer friends than they are with me so since they talked to her first... their side is getting the better end of the stick... So basically I am left with it is ALL my fault.... I should have called this lady last night to tell her SHE put the wrong sheet on HER horse and he was now naked (it was only in the 50's so not really all that cold).... I feel horrible about all this.... I try to mind my own business and stay out of trouble and stuff like this always seems to find me. |
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| dancing lawn | Feb 6 2008, 05:45 PM Post #6 |
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We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
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this stuff irritates me. YOU are a paying customer. its up to the BO/BM to ensure that whoever they HIRE to do the work knows the job. its not up to you to do anything more than visit your horse, keep your corner tidy, and leave the place the way it was when you entered it that day. ugh. barn politics and games. what a drag.
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| justmagic | Feb 6 2008, 11:20 PM Post #7 |
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Is the meadow on fire?
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Bull shit....it isn't your fault and I would state so. Be as diplomatic as possible but you are the paying customer and you haven't done anything wrong. It was your sheet that belonged on your horse.(who has to have a sheet!) They were supposed to be caring for your horse and they didn't do it. There is no gray area here....it's black and white. I understand you are trying to stay under the radar but I do agree with barn owner in that you need to say something but does she mean say something to her or to the people who are taking care of the barn while she is away? There is a difference and there will be a difference in the way whatever you say is taken. If she is a good BM she should be taking what you say to heart and working with the new people to insure the proper care of your horse. I don't know maybe I'm a bit bitchy because I negotiate with people all day long and at this point I'm over tired but it seems like barn owner needs to make it right. Or maybe its because there isn't much worse to me than bad care and no water and blankets not off on a hot day. |
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| Scotchie | Feb 7 2008, 06:00 AM Post #8 |
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Shunnnnn the unbeliever. Shunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.
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Two things stick out to me- 1) how can someone have permission to use something of yours when you didn't give them the permission? I don't care if they confused your sheet with another-the BO should have described it. Was there another one on the hook under yours? What sheet was the BO referring to? But, I *do* think you should have tried harder to find another one for the poor horse or call them- that is what has them mad.2) You're going waaayyyyin to the weeds with explanations of why you did this and that. You do NOT need to tell them your life story. It's not relevant that your horse has Cushings or EPM or that the dog passed. Expectations/service is what it is-you don't give reasons WHY you expect it-it is a given. Your horse was not cared for in the mannor to which the BO and you expect. The sheet was YOURS. Period. I am sorry this happened to you - best of luck |
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| justdandy | Feb 7 2008, 07:00 AM Post #9 |
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Magical Leopluridon
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Drakefly - you were definitely in the right for taking your sheet off of the other horse to put on your horse. I had to do that a couple of times when I boarded. Yes....it did piss a bunch of people off and they didn't talk to me for a while, but you know what...it was MY FREAKIN' money that I worked my butt off for that bought that sheet/blanket. IMO - if they needed a sheet for their horse then they should have gone out and BOUGHT one NOT borrow one. As for the BO - you mentioned a couple of times that these people have more than one horse boarded at this facility. I'm thinking the BO reamed you and told you you were in the wrong because you only bring in one "income" and the new boarders bring in multiple "incomes." Unfortunately, in some cases it doesn't matter whether or not you're a good boarder. I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's extremely selfish of those asshats (both the new boarders and the BO). |
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| Ovi | Feb 7 2008, 07:21 AM Post #10 |
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I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision
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That is absolutely ridiculous. So because this pitbull-Mom was too ignorant and/or lazy to get a sheet for her own horse, you're expected to just give up your own equipment for their personal use? It sounds like you handled the situation well, however. I don't know what I would have done had the mother called to scream me out <_< |
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| DairyQueen2049 | Feb 7 2008, 07:25 AM Post #11 |
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DRAGON BREATH. DRAGGIN' BUTT
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Drake - Its so hard to board!!! I think you are in the right here - as a paying boarder the person you are paying, or thier paid replacement, should know the rules, routines and who's clothes are whose. Water is not optional - THAT would butter my bisquit!!! - proper care is a must and lack of water is NOT proper care. The BO needs to come up with a better solution then leaving improper caretaker. Or you need to find a place with proper care.
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| Drakefly | Feb 7 2008, 07:49 AM Post #12 |
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I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision
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Unfortunately this is the ONLY place I can board at...so I can't afford to burn any bridges here. There are not a whole lot of affordable and decent barns in the area and this is one of the ONLY places that offer pasture board at a reasonable rate with a nice facility. It was my responsibility to put the sheet on my horse at night....they only take on/off in the morning since it's pasture board....but still. Thanks for all of the replies... I know I should have tried a little harder to call this lady.... but to me....SHE should have been more responsible in the first place and made sure she put the correct sheet on her horse to begin with. But like I said - there isn't anywhere for me to go and the care here isn't all THAT bad - I can handle isolated occurrances...so I am going to have to let this be water under the bridge because I can't do anything about it and I want to board where things aren't WIERD between people.... so I guess I am going to have to be the one who gives in here and pretend it never happened. |
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| jillincolorado | Feb 7 2008, 03:12 PM Post #13 |
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You're BANNED!
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Well I'm probably in the minority here, but I think you were wrong to remove the blanket without at least calling them to let them know they had made a mistake. They were new to the barn. It's ENTIRELY possible that they made an error that could have been easily corrected with a phone call to either the BO or the new boarders. It was cold enough for you to feel that your horse needed a sheet, I imagine they felt the same way about their horse. It probably would have made them friends instead of enemies, and really, who need enemies??? Your horse has medical needs and physical needs that were not being met. I would imagine that several other horses in the barn were not receiving proper care either. That warrants a call to the BO for the benefit of EVERYONE who boards at your facility. I agree with Scotchie; too many excuses that really have nothing to do with the problem at hand. Keep it simple! The more you explain, the more explaining you'll have to do
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| SnackPack | Feb 7 2008, 03:32 PM Post #14 |
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You're BANNED!
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IMO, you shouldn't have been apologizing that you put your sheet back on your horse. And you shouldn't have had to call to explain that you took it off. I suppose if you were in a benevolent frame of mind, it would've been nice for you to call and tell them you were taking your sheet off of their horse, but you didn't have a responsibility too. I would also guess that you were a little upset with them already for the apparent lack of care they were giving your horse. IMO, going without a blanket isn't the end of the world. Especially if it's warm-ish. |
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| Ride'emCO | Feb 7 2008, 04:12 PM Post #15 |
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Off visiting Candy Cave, be right back.
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And she can tell! Stop apologizing to this witch, you've got nothing to apologize for. Don't argue with someone who is being completely irrational, it's useless. Just put a smile on your face, tell her your sorry for the mix-up but she can't use your sheet in the future. Repeat as needed. Then (quietly and respectfully) bring your concerns up with the BM - your horse sounds like he needs special care, and I would be VERY concerned about this woman giving it (or not, as the case may be). |
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I don't care if they confused your sheet with another-the BO should have described it. Was there another one on the hook under yours? What sheet was the BO referring to? But, I *do* think you should have tried harder to find another one for the poor horse or call them- that is what has them mad.


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