| Welcome to The Outside Course! You're currently viewing our forum as a guest. This means you are limited to certain areas of the board and there are some features you can't use. If you join our community, you'll be able to access member-only sections, and use many member-only features such as customizing your profile, sending personal messages, and voting in polls. Registration is simple, fast, and completely free. Join our community! If you're already a member please log in to your account to access all of our features! |
| Shuuuuuuuned and Mad; Never try to do a giveaway!!!!!!!!! | |
|---|---|
| Tweet Topic Started: Sep 29 2007, 03:34 PM (527 Views) | |
| Just My Style | Sep 29 2007, 03:34 PM Post #1 |
|
We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Well, I just got shunned. Apparently, I was trying to sell a horse. It's all because I pt'ed a person to get more info about what they were looking for and I felt, from their original post that my horse would be a perfect fit. I am kind of in a bad predicament with him. He is wonderful. No issues at all. Really one of the nicest horses I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I am currently pregnant and was recently diagnosed with a heart problem. It's kind of scary and may in the future impact what I can and can not do physically. So, I not only have to look at the fact that I have a baby coming, but will I be able to care for either of my horses the way I would want to (including riding, etc.). I haven't put him officially up for sale, but I did post something on this site because it was free. I haven't taken a sale picture or placed a paid ad anywhere. Then, I was inspired by another poster who is donating a Belgian to a Therapuetic Center and thought I think I could give him away under those circumstances. Then I saw a post from a person who seemed nice on TOB. The whole family loves horses and he would be for her beginner daughter and husband. That would be a really good fit. So, I pt'ed her back. I was hoping for more information from her. And I did tell her that I was originally planning on selling him, because I was. That is the truth. I wanted her to understand that he has value. That he is not a throw away. That he has no issues and that I could probably sell him. I also wanted her to know that I would consider other options to the right person. I told her that I was very, very negotiable as far as placing him to a good home. To me, a good home was better than money. (So sorry if I worded it funny, but complete sleep deprivation will do that to you.) Anyway, she turned me in. Yep. I was trying to find out more about her, had talked to my husband and he actually (shockingly) agreed that we could do a giveaway, if I really felt strongly that they were good people and that turned me in. Well, guess what. She can find another horse. Good luck to her. And good luck to whoever decides to give her a horse. Frankly, I wouldn't even sell him to someone like her for 10X what I paid for him. I thought I was doing a good thing. And sue me for trying to stress that my horse is really nice and asking questions of her to see just how serious of a horse owner she is. Can you blame me? So now I am upset. And I know I won't be nice or feel sorry for someone ever, ever again. If someone wants him, they can pay for him. And they can also give me a farrier reference and a vet reference. And if they don't like it, they can go look for something else. And someone just kill me if I ever even consider a giveaway again. If you can't afford a horse upfront, then you probably can't afford them- period. I should have known that.
|
![]() |
|
| appylady | Sep 29 2007, 03:49 PM Post #2 |
|
Schooling
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Wow, that just plain sucks! I can't believe the way people are acting lately, but please don't let one huge beyotch of a woman spoil it for everyone. I gave a horse away on TOB and it was the best thing I ever did. He was the happiest he had been in years and the woman who gave him his new home loved him and still sends me updates on his weanling filly, even though he had to be put down this Spring. It really is hard to be nice sometimes, people just make me want to and , but then I find someone who makes nice a good thing again. to you!
|
![]() |
|
| Just My Style | Sep 29 2007, 04:47 PM Post #3 |
|
We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Thanks. I am just mad because this has been a bit of an emotional roller coaster for me. Of course, I thought of selling first. Most people would. Then I started to think more about being more open to other options. And her first post seemed like a really perfect fit. I just had to respond to find out more. And SHE pt'ed ME. Not the other way around. I know I stressed his value- but he does have value. Sorry that I am proud of him. She would have been getting one heck of a deal. I mean, there are lots of horse that are elderly with lots of physical issues and long list of things to keep them pasture sound. He had none of that. But, whatever. I am glad to know that others have had positive experiences with giveaways through a BB. I actually rehomed a TB once that I pulled off the meat truck. I spent a few years working on her sanity and got her to a happy place. I gave her away to the best friend of my vet and I never regret that decision. I guess you just know when you have a good fit in a giveaway or sale. At least I know now that I couldn't trust this woman. And I was on TOB for over 8 years without incident. Then again, I should know better from being on the BB for so long. This kind of thing happens to people all of the time. |
![]() |
|
| Applesauce | Sep 29 2007, 05:27 PM Post #4 |
|
Thomas H. Cruise!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Wish there was some way you could at least email her and tell her your side. Not necessarily cuss her out, although I'm sure you really want to, but at least let her know that she made a mistake. |
![]() |
|
| vxf111 | Sep 29 2007, 05:59 PM Post #5 |
|
You're BANNED!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Playing devil's advocate... Do you know she turned you in? I thought thos mods over there could/did randomly peruse private topics. If so, they could have found the messages even without the other people turning you in. She may be banned too! Or did she tell you she turned you in?! If so, what nerve! |
![]() |
|
| Reynard Ridge | Sep 29 2007, 06:14 PM Post #6 |
|
Drivin' The Short Bus
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
JMS, sorry for your predicament. I was pregnant and on bedrest with my first child when I was trying to sell my first horse. It was a horrible emotional time - trying to keep the baby healthy, trying not to lose my mind, trying to find a basically nice horse a home that would suit her. All in all, not the best time of my life. I'm sorry you got banned - it's a tough one. sometimes you get the breaks and sometimes you don't in these cases. Whether you did something 'wrong' in this case is ultimately a matter of perspective - and the fact that someone else perceives that you did something wrong when you don't can be emotionally distressing. My only advice would be to try to close the book on it for now. It's happened, you feel terrible, and time will help you feel better. I have to say, in your case, I would probably feel exactly the same way you do - like I had been wronged for trying to do something nice. But please don't let that color your world. |
![]() |
|
| Boston | Sep 29 2007, 06:50 PM Post #7 |
![]()
It'll be an adventure! We're going on an adventure!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
I was going to say what Veronica said.... are you sure she turned you in? The mods can see PT's. Did she tell you she turned you in? I sure hope she didn't, that would just be childish.
|
![]() |
|
| Dancinglite | Sep 29 2007, 06:55 PM Post #8 |
|
We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Permanent banning? Just a note. I am well aware that on all V Bulletin sites the mods and admins can go into your PM box at any time. There is absolutely no security on these servers and they are NOT PRIVATE messages but should have been called Personal/Public messages. I personally recommend that in the future anyone send a PM to the party in question requesting an email address ( or use the site one if available) and talk via that route. You can't be banned that way. |
![]() |
|
| seal harbor | Sep 29 2007, 09:12 PM Post #9 |
![]()
Administrator
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
We can't read PMs here. However!! All email from this site is logged. I delete the email logs every couple of days. There are only two of us that have access and the screen you post in to send email from the board tells you it will be logged by the board. It's so if some one decides to harass you via email there is proof. Well not if I delete them there isn't but in that case I would want to hear from people being harassed so we could keep the logged email. Just a PSA for The Outside Course. |
![]() |
|
| Dancinglite | Sep 29 2007, 09:21 PM Post #10 |
|
We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Very true Seal Harbor. I have an invision site ( like this one) and I cannot read anyone's PM's. I do know that with V-Bulletins sites though it is very very possible. |
![]() |
|
| Sabine | Sep 29 2007, 11:34 PM Post #11 |
|
I Visited Candy Mountain and All I Got Was This Lousy Incision
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
Wow- sorry for you and all the hard times you are facing. I think it's a big stressor to have your first baby- although it's one of the best times in life. Having been diagnosed with a heart problem at the same time is very tough and I can so understand your stress. No worries about TOB- this board is very nice and much more understanding if you are in a stressy situation. So I think you'll be fine here and can find a great home for your horse here as well... It's not the end of the world....it's just the beginning of a new world...best of luck and report on your progress..!!
|
![]() |
|
| Just My Style | Sep 30 2007, 03:18 AM Post #12 |
|
We're on a bridge, Chaaaaaaaaarlie!
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
|
I think it's a big stressor to have your first baby- although it's one of the best times in life. It's actually my second. I didn't have nearly the complications with my first (who is 7). But now I am older (34) and this guy was such a surprise and blessing after trying for so many years. So, I guess I am just way more stressed because I will do anything to get him here safely. And I am pretty certain that the OP turned me in. The night before my banning, she posted something to the effect of "SO ARE YOU TRYING TO SELL HIM TO ME?". (Literally bolded like that.) I read it pretty late and I figured I would type her out a whole thing about my conversation with my husband, etc. I didn't want her to misunderstand me, but I actually felt like going to bed. And I was going to take pictures and send them. I was also going to ask references and just see where it lead. I am fine. Probably more hormonal than usualy, but fine. And I did email the powers that be. I know it won't matter. I actually was good friends with the "powers" boss years back and have been in the industry for over 10 years on a business (product manufacturing level). I could make a bigger stink, but it's not worth it. I have been going on there mostly in the wee hours, when baby decides that kicking my internal organs out is better than napping. I'll just have to spend even more time here- and that is not a bad thing. Thanks for letting me vent, girls.
|
![]() |
|
| 1 user reading this topic (1 Guest and 0 Anonymous) | |
| « Previous Topic · The Barn Aisle · Next Topic » |





![]](http://z1.ifrm.com/static/1/pip_r.png)
turned me in. Well, guess what. She can find another horse. Good luck to her. And good luck to whoever decides to give her a horse. Frankly, I wouldn't even sell him to someone like her for 10X what I paid for him. I thought I was doing a good thing. And sue me for trying to stress that my horse is really nice and asking questions of her to see just how serious of a horse owner she is. Can you blame me?



and
to you!

Did she tell you she turned you in? I sure hope she didn't, that would just be childish.

And I did email the powers that be. I know it won't matter. I actually was good friends with the "powers" boss years back and have been in the industry for over 10 years on a business (product manufacturing level). I could make a bigger stink, but it's not worth it. I have been going on there mostly in the wee hours, when baby decides that kicking my internal organs out is better than napping. I'll just have to spend even more time here- and that is not a bad thing.
11:53 AM Jul 11