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Death Of A Pet
Topic Started: Oct 29 2006, 06:37 PM (413 Views)
Tacofoolio
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I checked and there were no topics on this.

I've had my cat for 14 years, most of my life, and he hasn't been doing well for awhile. Well yesterday I called my mom up like usual, and she told me that my grandma and dad were planning on putting him to sleep yesterday, but changed their minds because my grandma decided she'd rather spend the day buying an oven. So on this coming Saturday they're putting him to sleep and none of them were even going to tell me. I live in a different state from them and my cat, so I wont get to be there and I'm completely heartbroken. I've never had to deal with a pet dying, and my cat was always there for me when my life was really really unbearable. I've never been the type who just considered animals to only be animals, I love them. I feel so horrible I haven't gotten to see my cat and that next time I visit I'll just see his grave, and none of them were even going to tell me. My mom's the only one who is sad it seems and it makes me so mad and hurt.

So I suppose that I made this topic because I could use some support and so others can talk about it too. I just wish I could do something, I know that they're probably doing what's best, but it hurts so much.
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AmayaSaria
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Aww...I'm really sorry to hear this Taco! :hug: Its really hard to get over anything's death, whether it'd be a human or an animal. Its hard to let them go, especially if you have had your cat for about 14 years!

I know how you feel, to not be there for your pet's death. I had a mouse, his name was Miles, for two years. Now thats not as long as your cat, but I still loved Miles very much. Well, he started to get sick/too old and was starting to die about two weeks before his death. I was on vacation the last week, and I called me Mum that night, and she even put him on the phone because he was really, really, slow/dying. When I came home the next night, I had found out he died that morning. I was really upset that I couldn't spend the last week taking care of him.

But my Mum did make a good point, she told me he realized he was loved, and he wouldn't be suffering anymore. He was one of the lucky mice, one of them who got to live instead of being fed to a snake.

Its going to be tough to let go of your cat, especially if he's been there for 14 years, but remember, he won't be sick, and he will no longer be suffering. I know I must sound weird saying this, but I'm sure your cat would prefer to be remember through the good times, not when he was sick and just about to die.

I hope everything will be alright! :huggle:
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Tacofoolio
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:huggle: Thanks, I know it's hard to lose a pet no matter how long you had them. I've helped my brother go through a few pets' deathes, two rats and a lizard, so I always knew it'd be hard. Your mom's smart too, and I'm going to try to keep it in mind. I think it's even harder knowing he's still alive now though, so I feel like, what if it's not really time? Could I do something more? I'm doing my best to save the rest of my tears for Saturday, and then maybe at least I can accept it better.

Thank you for being supportive, in some ways I'm embarrassed to be this upset, but it helps to know that there are people who understand. :huggle: lol, on top of being miserable I'm getting the flu, so life is trying to be really mean! :lol:
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Aww, Taco, I know EXACTLY what you're going through. I totally agree; the death of a pet isn't nothing. It's really painful. I love my pets.

When I was about 5 years old, we adopted a stray cat named Tiger. She was definitely the smartest cat I ever knew. She was smarter than most dogs! She even taught herself how to use a water fountain (which very much bothered my mom a whole lot who would often find our cat drinking from the water fountain :P ). I loved Tiger so much.

Since she was a stray cat, we couldn't force her to stay inside. She loved being outdoors too much. So when I came home from school, I would let her go outside. Then, around 5:00 PM each day, when she wanted to come in, she would jump up and ring the doorbell (I told ya she was smart). Anyway, when I was 13 and Tiger had been a part of our family for a good eight years, she got hit by a car that was speeding. I cried so much for a long time. I loved her, and couldn't get the image of her last moments of labored breathing out of my head. I still miss her, and it still saddens me to think about it five years later.

Right now, we have two cats. One of our cats, Sugar, who we've had for eleven years, got cancer recently. We were never told, but apparently the cat vaccination against rabies can sometimes cause a cancerous lesion. She's had three or so tumors since then, and we remove them every time as soon as we discover them. It breaks my heart to see her suffer though. She's scared to death of strangers and the vet, and it makes me want to cry having to bring her so often. I wish she could understand that we're trying to save her life.

The biopsies say that the type of cancer she has reoccurs VERY often, but takes a long time to spread through the body. I was crying the other night because I never, ever want to put her to sleep. I can't bear the thought of me being the one that ultimately brings her to her end, and letting those people gas her to death. I just can't be responsible for that. Ugh... I'm going to start crying again soon, so I should stop talking about this.

I'm really sorry about what you're going through, Taco. We're always here for you. :hug:
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Tacofoolio
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:huggle: Wow, your cat was VERY smart! I also bet it's extremely hard for you to have to put your cat through that so often. I know it'd break my heart, but your cat is very lucky to have you and your family giving her this chance at life instead of giving up just because she's sick.

For me the most memorable thing that makes my cat to special to me is back a few years ago when I used to have seisures. Once I had one in the basement of my house and when he saw me, he stayed by me but kept meowing at the stairs like he wanted someone to help me. I have many many more, but that's something that really stood out to me. I also have silly memories of Max getting jealous of my boyfriend, who's now my husband and always sitting between us but partly on my lap. I really am going to miss him and already do.
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I've had many animals, but the saddest one would be when my baby horse Silver died 7 months after his birth. Well, after he was born he was fine and playful, he would jump around and he kicked people :lol: but it was cute. :wub: Well, all of the sudden a couple months later he started to act weird like he was moaning around and stuff with his head down. Well like 3 Weeks later he started to just stand there and not move with his head down. I didn't understand to I asked my mom and stepdad and they called the vet and he was running a 104 tempurature and the doctor gave him a shot and so we put him back in the barn in warmth. In the morning we found my baby dead. :sad: He had a sezure or something. The doctors think, he died of colliate or something cause, the mother didn't feed him. Well, we buried him and had a nice funeral for him. :cry: Later on we found out the same horse that gave birth to Silver was preagnet with another one and she misscarried that one and it was the only girl, cause all of the other babies were boys. :unsure:
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I remember when my dog died..... he was still a young puppy, and it hurt even worse... I think every pet I've ever had thats died I've cried my heart out. I get EXTREMELY attached to animals, and thats a terrible problem I have.
When my Dachshound Daxter#1 died, I felt like someone torn a piece of my heart out... I watched him die, and the last time I saw him was when my sister took him from my arms and rushed out the door to take him to the vet. It all happened so fast, and everyone shed a tear that day. Especially the one's who had spent so much time with the dog, and took care of him. I had a big part of caring for a dog. I spent almost all my time caring for the dog, cuddling him every night, and he slept in my bed. Gosh, the pain just felt so unbearable when he died.... :cray:

But, a few months later, we got a new Dachshound. Daxter#2. We've had him about 3 years now, and he's made me very happy.
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Taco, I'm so glad that you started a topic about this. I was too shy to.

I'm very sorry to hear about losing your cat. I love my cats very, VERY much and it absolutely kills me when they go. You just have to remember that they're happier in heaven than they are suffering on earth. :huggle:

I believe that pets go to heaven. What do you guys think?


I recently had to put my kitty to sleep (3 weeks ago), and it was very painful for me. She was very, very sick. She was only about 4 years old, but she was always, always there for me. She was sweet and happy and energetic. However, when she was sick she had lost all of the life she had in her. Seeing her sick broke my heart. Finally she came to the point where she couldn't walk anymore, and we knew she was too sick to recover from her illness. We took her in knowing almost full well that they would have to put her down.

I'm happy that she's not sick anymore, but I miss her terribly. :sad: She was very young and it felt unfair that she should have to die. Of all of the cats I have had, she was one of the closest to me. We were like best friends. She was this constant for me, and it hurt the most when I lost her because I had been going through some rough times and I felt like on top of that I had lost my true, unconditional best friend. She used to always sleep on my bed, and for a week I couldn't sleep in my bed because she wasn't there and I knew in the back of my mind she never would be again.

Once I recovered from this, though, I felt better. She's in heaven, at least I hope so. She was absolutely adorable and the sweetest, with a heart of gold. Knowing her, we'll see each other again SOMEHOW. :lol:

I'm really glad I had somewhere to put this, because it had caused me very much grief.
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Am very sorry to hear that. I may not even own a pet in my entire life, but I know how you feel. Some might not appreciate their pets but when their gone, they finally realize their meaning.
My boyfriend has this really cute kitty I always played with, he's very fluffy white, and what's making it more special is I was the one who named him, Neko, even though he was never my pet to begin with.
What I really loved about that cat is he prefers me as the owner than my boyfriend, :P and I'm glad at it. I spent most of my time petsitting Neko that, I almost feel like he's my kitten. We even celebrate his birthday, September 27!!!
And because of that, I was attacked by asthma. Though that didn't stop me from playing with him no matter how much my family wants me to stay away from pets, especially those who are hairy. That happened when I was 14. When I was 17 my boyfriend moved to Japan with Neko. The last time I saw Neko was when we're playing with a ball of yarn. When my boyfriend came back last 2005's summer break, Neko was already gone. :cry: The only memory I had left with him is the pink ball of yarn.
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Tacofoolio
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Sorry I haven't replied, but I got pretty sick, and unfortunately my kitty went to heaven yesterday. I'm pretty sad about it, but I don't have the energy to type too much about it. I just have to say that most of my family isn't as supportive as I'd hoped and it's tough so far.
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AmayaSaria
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Tacofoolio
Nov 2 2006, 08:20 PM
Sorry I haven't replied, but I got pretty sick, and unfortunately my kitty went to heaven yesterday. I'm pretty sad about it, but I don't have the energy to type too much about it. I just have to say that most of my family isn't as supportive as I'd hoped and it's tough so far.

Don't worry Taco, we understand if you're not up for explaining details or anything. We're here for you if you need support. *shakes her head* It isn't right for your family to not help you through this time. I guess they don't really realize how much your cat was to you. I get the feeling that they think you're being very "childish" over all this, but don't worry, you're not.

Its really hard to let go of something thats always been there for you, something you grew up with, and something that has made a difference in your life. You don't have to be okay today, and you most certainly don't have to be happy tomorrow. Take your time, and go through each day mourning at your own pace. It doesn't matter if others think you are silly, just take it easy. Although, its probably best for you to remember at least once a day, one moment, just a happy time you had with your cat. Just take one little moment, thats all it has to be, to remember that your cat is no long suffering. Losing someone/thing thats been with you for that long isn't that easy to get over as others make it seem like.

Ah...Sorry, I must sound weird, but thats how I honestly feel.

Hope everything will be alright soon! =) :huggle: Bless your cat's soul, hope he's happy in Heaven and watching over you! :huggle:
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I really know how you feel. I had a dog that was born just a year before me, and we grew up together for 16 years and last year she just stopped eating and my parents decided to put her to sleep and it hurt a lot. And I just wanted them to at least try to get her help because other than the eating part, she was doing well for her age. I have had pets die before. It is very hard to get over, because they are like family. I'm very sorry for your loss, and I know you won't get over this any time soon or at all. But know you aren't alone! Take care.
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